The Joys of Breastfeeding Past Infancy #21

September 3rd, 2010 by Dionna | 11 Comments
Posted in Breastfeeding/Lactivism, Carnival and Special Series, Compassionate Advocacy, Feed with Love and Respect, Guest Posts, Joys of Breastfeeding Past Infancy, Just for Fun/Miscellaneous, natural parenting

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Today I am happy to host a guest post by Marisa. Marisa works full-time at an environmental consulting firm and endured a year of driving back and forth to her son’s daycare at lunch every day to nurse him (she also pumped at work in various locations, including the office server room). Marisa is a bedsharing, toddler-wearing first-time mom and “informal breastfeeding consultant” for many of her new mom friends. Here is her breastfeeding guest post:

As a mom who works full-time, extended breastfeeding has been a great reconnection tool for me and my nursing toddler at the end of each day. Oakley literally dances with joy when I walk through the front door, laughing and shouting, “Nursies! Nursies!” There are days when I can barely take off my shoes before he’s pawing at my shirt, trying to get to our favorite spot on the couch, so we can cuddle and “talk” about our day. (I ask yes or no questions and get lots of head nods and shakes since my breast is occupying his mouth!)

Oakley is your typical rough-and-tumble boy in all that does – including nursing. Every session is a marathon of acrobatics, side-switching, twiddling, twirling, kicking, laughing! One very rough day, he grabbed my breasts and yelled, “Mine!” (his favorite word at the time).  To which I replied, “No, Mama’s nursies. But Oakley can have them right now. But they are Mama’s.” He touched again and asked, “Mama’s?” I said yes. I think it was truly dawning on him that these milk machines were actually ATTACHED to me and he was trying his best to process that information.

Now every nursing session includes some talk about “Mama’s nursies.” He loves to categorize everything (dada’s car, papa’s car, mama’s coat, grammy’s coat, etc.) so “Mama’s nursies” is just another entry in his long list. And I’m happy to keep loaning them out for as long as he needs them. Nursing a baby provides vital nourishment in the form of food and drink – but nursing my walking, talking, table-food eating, almost-2-year-old toddler provides so much more.

Breastfeeding past infancy is full of laughter, joys, and heartbreaking tenderness. I am publishing a series of posts dedicated to the beauty of nursing toddlers in an effort to normalize this healthy and beneficial nursing relationship. But this isn’t just about me – I want to hear YOUR joys. If you are nursing a child who is older than one year, please contact me and tell me about your favorite moments. I will include them in the series and credit you, your site, or post it anonymously if you so desire. (This series was formerly called “The Joys of Breastfeeding a Toddler.” I changed the name to reflect the fact that we are celebrating women who breastfeed past infancy, regardless of the age of the nursling.)

11 Responses to:
"The Joys of Breastfeeding Past Infancy #21"

  1. MomAgain@40   karentoittoit

    I enjoy reading each and every of the extended breastfeeding posts! It is so very special to every mom who has kept going!
    Well done, Marisa!

  2. the grumbles   thegrumbles

    i think you’ve given me a glimpse into my future, i’ve got a rough-and-tumbler too.


    • Hannah   HaRae

      My future too! My little guy is 14 months right now and loves climbing, tipping, and exploring things. 2 years is my next “goal”.

  3. RedPowerLady

    Love love love this!

  4. TNmommie

    I’m so glad to see a post by a working mom extended nursing!!! Sometimes I fell like I’m the only one. It presents its own challenges, especially when I have to work late like I did this week. But I’m in no hurry to change anything.

  5. This is so great…awesome Mama!!

  6. mona

    I love nursing my little one- she is 22 months old. Unlike Oakley, I think she still hasn’t realised that the “milky milks” are attached to mommy. Often after she has nursed she kisses them and says “thank you milky milk- i love you!”

  7. Fiona

    Lovely post. I’ve really enjoyed this series. I do want to voice a little frustration though. Why is it that we have to gender everything our children do, even nursing? Why must nursing acrobatics be the behaviour of “your typical rough-and-tumble boy”? My 12 month old daughter does exactly what you describe, as do many of the female toddlers of my friends. What makes this behaviour typically male? And if a baby girl does it, what is it then?

    Maybe I’m overreacting a bit, but I really work hard not to gender my child’s behaviour and am always intrigued when the “typical boys” of other mums sound just like my daughter.

    Thanks for listening.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      I’m glad you’re enjoying the series, Fiona! I’d be willing to bet the writer wasn’t really conscious of the gender implications of that statement. I think unless gender stereotyping is at the forefront of your mind, a phrase like that might slip out. It is good to be reminded, though, that our little ones are so much more alike than we think (consciously or not).

      • Fiona

        Thanks for your response, Dionna. I think you’re right – these things slip out without us being conscious of it.

  8. Marisa

    I apologize if my comment was at all offensive, Fiona. That was not my intent. While he does love his trucks and tools above all, the top of his list also include his vacuum, kitchen, and dress-up doll! :)

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