Respectful Parents Respectful Kids Giveaway CLOSED

February 13th, 2011 by Dionna | 22 Comments
Posted in Book Discussions, Closed, Reviews and Giveaways

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This is a joint giveaway with Code Name: Mama and Natural Parents Network. You may enter at one site only. Please find the section marked “Win it!” for the mandatory main entry and optional bonus entries.

We are opening up entries to the Respectful Parents Respectful Kids Giveaway to make it easier for anyone to win, but participating in our book discussion will net you even more entries!1

Here’s a little bit about Respectful Parents Respectful Kids:

Respectful Parents Respectful Kids is one of my favorite parenting books. It is modeled after Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication philosophy, and you can apply what you learn to all of your relationships – not just those with your children.

Hart and Hodson focus “on creating respect and cooperation between parents and children,” and they give us seven keys to help us work on these skills. The seven keys include concepts like “parenting with a purpose clearly in mind, looking beyond behavior to the needs that motivate it, and actively choosing structures and practices that fulfill one’s purposes and intentions.” The authors stay away from some of the techniques that are commonly preached to parents, things like natural consequences, time-outs, incentives, and punishment, because those are all simply ways “to control kids’ behavior.”2

Respect and cooperation are not about control, nor are they about managing children’s behavior.

In Respectful Parents Respectful Kids, you will learn simple yet effective ways to build on good feelings and connection. The book “addresses the only behavior you can actually change – your own. The beauty of it is, when you change your behavior, your kids’ behavior will change too.” Think of it this way – will your children learn by having you lecture them, day in and day out? Will your ultimatums and scoldings motivate them to grow into kind people? Or will they learn by watching you live your values?3

If you would like to build your capacity to create a loving home, I hope you will join us for this discussion. “A loving home is free of fear, which is the source of all conflict. It is a place where children trust that their needs matter and that everyone’s needs – theirs included – will be considered and cared for.” Respectful Parents Respectful Kids will give you the tools you need to create such an atmosphere.4


You can purchase Respectful Parents Respectful Kids on Amazon ($12.21 new plus free shipping for Prime customers!), Barnes & Noble ($12.92 new and free shipping if you spend $25), straight from Puddle Dancer Press ($12.55, or as low as $8.95 if you buy multiple books), or check into one of your locally owned/independent book sellers.


There are several ways to enter the giveaway:

  • REQUIRED ENTRY: Visit Puddle Dancer Press and leave a comment here telling us which of their books looks most interesting to you and why.
  • FOR 1 BONUS ENTRY ENTRY: Join the Natural Parents Network Forums and participate in one of the threads about RPRK. Deadline to participate in the discussion threads for entry into the giveaway is March 13.
  • FOR 1 BONUS ENTRY (once/day up to 2 times/entries): Share this post on Facebook: “Join the Respectful Parents Respectful Kids online book discussion on Code Name: Mama and learn how to turn conflict and struggles with your kids into respect and cooperation. Click to find out how to participate and win your own copy of the book!” Deadline to share is March 6, 2011. Leave a comment on this post after you shared the above update.
  • FOR 1 BONUS ENTRY (once/day up to 2 times/entries): Tweet this post on Twitter: “Discussion/giveaway of Respectful Parents RespectfulKids via @CodeNameMama & @NatParNet; turn conflict into cooperation” Deadline to tweet is March 6, 2011. Leave a comment on this post after you tweet.
  • FOR 2 BONUS ENTRIES: Blog about our online book discussion (linking back to Code Name: Mama and the Natural Parents Network Forums). Blog posts must be published no later than Sunday, March 6, 2011. Please leave a comment on this post with a link to your post.
  • FOR 10 BONUS ENTRIES: Write a guest post for Code Name: Mama and email it to me. Your post must present a recent challenge you have had with your child and how you addressed it respectfully – preferably using one of the methods you learned about in RPRK. Posts must adhere to my contributor guidelines, and by submitting a post for consideration, you acknowledge that it may be posted on my site.5 Posts are due no later than 9:00pm CST on Sunday, March 13.
  • Leave a relevant comment on a non-giveaway article at Natural Parents Network and tell us which post (comment on separate posts for up to 3 entries total).
  • Leave a relevant comment on a non-giveaway article at Code Name: Mama and tell us which post (comment on separate posts for up to 3 entries total).
  • Put the Natural Parents Network badge on your website or add to your text blogroll for 2 extra entries each. The HTML code for the badge is on the front page of Leave your site URL in the comment.
  • RULES:

    • Contest open to United States mailing addresses only.
    • Contestants may enter at either or, but not both. Entries will be combined for the drawing of a single winner.
    • Leave each entry as a separate comment so we can count them all.
    • For actions like following and subscribing, if you already follow or subscribe, just let us know in your comment.
    • For tasks that garner you multiple entries, you can copy and paste the comment with a #1, #2, etc.
    • You don’t have to do any of the bonus entries, but you do have to complete the first mandatory one.
    • We will pick the winner through after the contest closes and send an email notification. Leave a valid email address as you comment so we can contact you if you win. If we can’t reach a winner or don’t hear back within a couple days, we’ll draw a new name.
    • Any questions, let me know: CodeNameMama {at} gmail {dot} com

    Contest closes March 13, 2011 at 11:59 p.m. CST.

    Disclosure: Our reviewer received nothing for this review/giveaway, she already owned the book! For our giveaways, we try to seek out only products we think you would find relevant and useful to your life as a natural parent. If we don’t like a product, we won’t be recommending it to you.


    Dionna, the reviewer of Respectful Parents Respectful Kids, blogs about natural parenting at Code Name: Mama and is also the cofounder of Natural Parents Network and

    1. Originally, the giveaway was only open to discussion participants.
    2. Respectful Parents Respectful Kids at 7.
    3. Respectful Parents Respectful Kids at 8-9.
    4. Respectful Parents Respectful Kids at 10.
    5. You may change names to protect your privacy, but please leave ages/behavior intact.

    22 Responses to:
    "Respectful Parents Respectful Kids Giveaway CLOSED"

    1. Hollie

      I think the book Being Genuine looks really interesting. I think whether we are dealing with our children or other people, being our authentic selves is very important. But I think it can take some digging to get there. This book seems like it might be really interesting and have some insight on how to be your authentic self no matter who you’re dealing with.

    2. I think this Respectful Parents Respectful Kids book looks the most interesting because I notice more and more that parents don’t seem to realize how much their behavior affects their kids’. I notice when I yell at my cat to stop scratching the couch, my 17 month old yells at him, too. But when I say “please stop scratching”, my son reacts calmly. I think more parents need to hold a mirror up to ourselves as we try to raise polite, respectful little people!

    3. Badge has been added to and I’ve submitted myself for the NPN!

    4. Commented on “Follow the Giggles”!

    5. Shared on facebook! (wow that’s a lot of comments!) :P

    6. Tatiana

      Just checked out Puddle Dancer. Besides RPRK, I am also interested in Connecting Across Differences. I love the idea of a workbook that I could do with my son to help us both learn these important lessons.

    7. Naomi

      Right now I think the book that most interests me is The Compassionate Classroom. My son is currently in K and he we are taking issue with the way the teacher aide speaks to the children. She is so punitive and belittling. It would be a great one to share with the principal who we are meeting with soon. I have 3 kids but used to be a teacher so I am always loving finding books I can read and share with the teachers who I know. I am trying to work with my spouse on figuring out what we really value and then remembering that in our parenting. I am working really hard at reaching my children in a loving and dignified way when expecting them to act with empathy and dignity as well.

    8. Anjanette   anjanetteopal

      Both the “speak Peace” book and the connecting across differences books look interesting to me!

      • Anjanette   anjanetteopal

        oops, forgot the “why.” We’ve been talking a lot at church and at home about genuinely loving our neighbors. Both of these topics (nurturing peace and connecting across differences) are vital!

    9. tess

      peaceful living seems interesting, but respectful parents respectful kids interests me more

    10. Carrie

      The most interesting book at Puddle Dancer Press to me is Respectful Parents Respectful Kids. It’s the most applicable to my life right now and thus would be the most helpful at this stage in my life. Parenting an energetic, strong minded daughter, like mine, in a respectful way can be such a challenge sometimes. I could always use more pointers.

    11. andrea

      I would like to read Eat by Choice, Not by Habit

      Any tips for healthy diets and how we can make better choices for the foods we eat can be added to other things in our lives

    12. The book, Being Genuine looks really interesting to me. I think learning to be “real” with others would not only be beneficial to me, but it would be a good ideal to model for my son. I would love for him to learn how he can be genuine with his feelings and emotions and desires at a young age.

    13. Speak Peace in a World of Conflict

      I live in a fairly mainstream conservative area and am frequently judged for my parenting style. I think this book would help me handle those situations more effectively.

    14. Rachael

      I think I might pick up the “Speak Peace In A World of Conflict” book! We have dealt with our first bully this week and it has opened up a great conversation with our kids about being peaceful in an aggressive situation. What a wonderful lesson for them going out in to the big world!! Be peaceful when the world is not!

    15. Melanie

      I think Speak Peace in a World of Conflict might help me deal with my mother in law. :/

    16. Linda Kish

      Eat by Choice, Not by Habit

      I think most of the time we don’t really think about what we are eating or why. It’s just basically become a habit. If we review our thought processes about eating, we would probably eat healthier. This would be a good starting point.

      lkish77123 at gmail dot com

    17. Eat by choice, not by habit

      ABreading4fun [at] gmail [dot] com

    18. Ingvild   kassonlibrary

      Besides “Respectful Parents Respectful Kids”, I think “The Compassionate Classroom” looks like a thoughtful read for teachers or anyone who interacts with groups of children.

    19. Alicia C.   amccrenshaw

      So many great books! Since I’m studying to be a teacher and am trying to figure out how my ideals are going to be able to fit into a public classroom (?!), I would love to read Life-Enriching Education.
      ohmiss14 at yahoo dot com

    20. Jody   OneCrunchyMama

      I’m most interested in the Compassionate Classroom book. As someone that will probably homeschool, I thinking finding ways to incorporate good parenting and gentle discipline practices in a classroom setting is invaluable.

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