The Joys of Breastfeeding Past Infancy #32

March 16th, 2011 by Dionna | 10 Comments
Posted in Breastfeeding/Lactivism, Feed with Love and Respect, Guest Posts, Joys of Breastfeeding Past Infancy

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Today I am happy to host a guest post by Kimra. Kimra is a fashion student, work at home mama, and active humanitarian. She spends her free time having fun with her son, Oliver and husband, Seth. Kimra enjoys sewing, blogging at Humanitarian Opp, gardening, music, and art. She loves breastfeeding her toddler because it gives lots of extra cuddling time. Here is her breastfeeding guest post:

I am one of those moms who should have given up on nursing after a week, but I didn’t. My son was born in June, and he was not latching very often; once or twice a day, maybe. I was pumping and fed my milk to him through a tube. After two weeks my son finally got the hang of nursing. That was my first struggle.

My second struggle was with supply. When my son was four months I had many difficulties keeping my supply up, but I pumped and pumped and persevered through it. There were several times when other moms said to me “it’s okay if you don’t have enough milk, babies turn out fine when they drink formula.” My son did have formula part time during this rough patch, but within a few months he was back to being fully breastfed. I do believe that babies can be healthy with just formula, but I was determined and I made full time breastfeeding happen.

By six months breastfeeding finally became a breeze for me. My supply was abundant. This also became the time when I would wake up in the middle of the night with my son already latched onto my breast. He found my breasts in the dark without waking me. That was when I really began loving breastfeeding.

Being able to cuddle with my son several times a day was and is still so rewarding. After my son was a year old breastfeeding became like we were acrobats. My son will nurse with his legs in all kinds of crazy directions. He also laughs at jokes while he is nursing. My son loves nursing. Every time I ask “Would you like to nurse right now?” my son’s face lights up with joy. Words can’t describe how wonderful his smile is when he is approaching my breast to nurse.

My husband loves that I still nurse my son, who is now 18 months old. I plan on allowing my son to self-wean and, hopefully, tandem nursing with a future child. I believe that nursing my son into toddlerhood has helped him develop into a very gentle child. I also believe that nursing really gives a toddler time to just settle down and relax. Toddlers are busy, busy, busy and nursing gives them a chance to cuddle with mama and relax their minds for a bit. I am nursing my toddler right now as I type this and I love it.

Nursing my toddler is natural for me. It fits my family perfectly. I am so grateful for the wonderful cuddle-nursing time I have with my son.

Breastfeeding past infancy is full of laughter, joys, and heartbreaking tenderness. I am publishing a series of posts dedicated to the beauty of nursing toddlers in an effort to normalize this healthy and beneficial nursing relationship. But this isn’t just about me – I want to hear YOUR joys. If you are nursing a child who is older than one year, please contact me and tell me about your favorite moments. I will include them in the series and credit you, your site, or post it anonymously if you so desire. (This series was formerly called “The Joys of Breastfeeding a Toddler.” I changed the name to reflect the fact that we are celebrating women who breastfeed past infancy, regardless of the age of the nursling.)

10 Responses to:
"The Joys of Breastfeeding Past Infancy #32"

  1. Good for you! If I weren’t so determined to make breastfeeding work, I would’ve quit after a week too. I also found that breastfeeding became even more rewarding after four month mark. The best things in life are the hardest! I weaned my daughter at 18-months-old because I simply didn’t have any milk left. Best wishes!!

  2. Charise@I Thought I Knew Mama   ithoughtiknewma

    Beautiful post!

  3. MomAgain@40   karentoittoit

    Another great reminder of how special the reklationship is. I also marvel at all the different positions the toddler contorts herself into when she is breastfeeding :D

  4. Melinda J

    I am impressed that you made it through such a rough time!! Way to go mama!

  5. cassondra law   sondramama

    good for you! i had my first son self wean at 22 months. i plan to do the same with my second. =]

  6. Sheila   agiftuniverse

    I had a hard time at first, too, and I’m so glad that I have this time, now that my son’s older, to actually enjoy nursing him. I remember back when I was struggling, my mom said, “I hope you work through your problems and have a nice, long, happy nursing relationship with him!” Before he was born, I thought I’d wean sooner rather than later, but now that we’ve made it through so much, there’s no way I’m stopping now that it’s (almost) effortless. (The almost is because of all the nursing acrobatics — gets kind of painful!)

  7. Maman A Droit   MamanADroit

    Awww so sweet! And brava for pushing through all the difficulties-you rock mama!

  8. Kimra Diggs   pr0gressivemama

    Thanx ladies for all the comments. Yes, I did go through a lot, and after 6 months breastfeeding finally became a breeze for me. Now there is a lot of acrobatics going on while I’m nursing my son but it is so worth it. This past week my son has had a cold (the first time ever) and it has made me even more thankful that I have continued to breastfeed. This week he has hardly eaten any table food but has been nursing a lot. I know he is getting the vitamins he needs from my milk, since he isn’t eating much.
    I hope everyone has a wonderful nursing experience like I am having now.
    Peace, Love, Wealth,
    Kimra Diggs
    The Progressive Mama

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      That’s the same way I felt when Kieran had a stomach bug this winter and was throwing up. The only thing he could keep down was breastmilk – not even water!
      Thanks again for sharing your story, Kimra :)

  9. Shannon Lavneia   shannonlavenia


    Kimra is a good friend of mine and I was fortunate to participate in her labor. Oliver is an amazing little boy…so alert, tender and playful.

    My daughter is 5 months old and I exclusive breastfed up until last week when she started with solid foods. I wanted so much to wait until 6 months to start her on solids but she had other plans.

    I delivered Trinity naturally at a birth center with no drugs. I don’t know if that is the reason, but she is far advanced. By three months she was rolling over and by 3 1/2 months scooting herself across the floor. She’s now actively crawling and has been alert since day 1. She engages people, looking them in the eyes, smiling and making different sounds at them.

    I love breastfeeding. For me it was also very difficult. I had cracked, bleeding nipples and it took a good 7 weeks for it to be comfortable. I suffered from engorgement. Fortunately, because I delivered at a birth center, I was able to go in whenever I needed help and they hosted to mom and baby groups each week with lactation coaches.

    Because of that support, my transition into motherhood was great. Kimra’s mother-in-law is also one of my best friends and she has 6 kids, so her experience helped me a lot.

    It’s very important to have a good support system in place that helps to master breastfeeding and supports doing it as long as possible. I plan to continue breastfeeding until my daughter is 2 or self-weans. I love the bond and closeness that we have and cherish every moment with her.

    Thanks for the great article Kimra!


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