On the Road to Recovery

January 14th, 2013 by Dionna | 73 Comments
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Welcome to the January 2013 Carnival of Natural Parenting:
Recovering from the Holidays

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have written about how their families get back to normal after the holidays are over.

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No need for recovery.

Code Name: Mama - On the Road to Recovery

Fishing for ideas for today’s post, I asked my husband, “what did recovering from the holidays look like for you?” He mulled it for a minute and then said, “I didn’t need to recover.”

“You didn’t need any recovery at all? How so?” “Well,” he said, “we didn’t drink anything.” “Right,” I countered, “but I don’t just mean alcohol recovery.”

“Think about it,” he continued, “in holidays past we’ve drank too much, eaten too much, stayed up late and not gotten enough sleep. This year was calm, not so indulgent. And I think that’s because we weren’t drinking.”

Huh. I hadn’t really thought about it, although I think my whole family did note the absence of a couple of good bottles of wine with Christmas dinner. And our traditional champagne – my favorite, the one from New Mexico – was amongst the missing on New Year’s.

Our house has been dry since June. Not that we’ve been hard partiers at any point in the last six years, but we’ve also not been teetotalers.

Oh hell, let’s be honest.

My name is Dionna, and I am an alcoholic.

Pre-kids, alcoholism looked like what you might imagine it does for many young people: entirely too many late nights at bars with friends. Or in my living room alone. It mattered little.

Post-kids, alcoholism was much more subtle. I couldn’t point to black outs or cringe-worthy bar conversations as signs of impending doom, but the fact that I needed that glass of wine (or sometimes more) more nights than not rang the warning bells.

As I had learned from twenty years of liver abuse, alcohol provided an illusory escape when marriage or parenthood was shitty. But alcohol never resolves anything.

Having Ailia brought me to a personal crisis point. For various reasons, having a girl sent me into a tailspin, and then I was forced to choose – face a life of ruin and heartache, or pick up the pieces and heal. Thankfully, I chose the latter.

Code Name: Mama - On the Road to Recovery

I am done letting alcohol control me. I want to break the cycle of familial alcoholism. I want my body and my brain back.

I want to face the shitty parts of life head on, so I can serve as a model for my kids that I can be proud of.

And for me, that means no more drinking. We’ve tried the “cut back” method before, and Tom was always confused when it didn’t work for me. It wasn’t until I admitted it out loud to him – alcohol controls me – that he finally accepted it. And, thankfully, he’s quit drinking with me in a show of solidarity.

So how has it been? Not bad, actually. It’s been similar to my experience when I quit smoking. On the day I got the positive pregnancy test for Kieran, I made up my mind to quit for the health of my entire family. My resolve was firm when I put it in terms of my family. The challenge will be to remember five years from now that I cannot have “just one drink,” the same way I cannot have “just one cigarette.” Because one is just the beginning for me.

Recovery is a family affair.

Strolling through Costco to get Christmas dinner goodies, Kieran pointed at a display of wine and said “do you need any wine for Christmas dinner?” “No,” I replied.

“Why?” he asked. “I don’t drink wine,” I answered nonchalantly.

“But you used to drink wine,” he pressed. “Yes, I did used to drink wine or beer, but I’ve decided not to anymore.”

“Why not?” At this point, I knew he was processing and asking things that he had wondered about for awhile. “Because I don’t like the way wine and beer make me feel. They aren’t good for my body, and I choose not to have any.”

“Ok,” he answered, and we kept shopping.

Someday I’ll share with my children more of the details of our family’s battle with alcohol. Until then, I’ll try my damnedest to help our children learn the coping skills that eluded me.

So how did recovery look for us after this holiday season? Calm. Healthy. Sober.

We’re hoping that it’s part of a larger trend on my – our – long road to recovery.

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

  • Pinterest Inspiration for Easier Winter Holidays Shannon, writing at Natural Parents Network, shares inspiration for having more relaxed winter holidays from their Handmade Holidays Pinterest board.
  • Seven Recipes for Beans – Post Holiday Cleaning — Destany at They Are All of Me shares her favorite bean recipes that she hopes will help her body recover from overindulging her sweet tooth during the holidays.
  • The Recovery in the Change — Laura at Pug in the Kitchen made changes in her life and attitude throughout 2012 and was pleasantly surprised at how those changes impacted her holiday recovery!
  • Could this question change your life for ever? — To get your new year off on the right footing, Mrs Green of Little Green Blog is challenging us all to love ourselves with commitment and discipline. She asks you to focus on a simple question which might just bring you back in balance…
  • Holiday Recovery — Meegs at A New Day talks about how the holidays can be overwhelming for a toddler, and how she’s helping her 3 year old recover.
  • 5 Ways to Detox After the Holidays — Brittany at The Pistachio Project gives a few ways to help you detox and get back on track after the holiday season has passed.
  • 3 Simple Ways to Establishing Rhythm After the Holidays or Any Time — Sheila at A Living Family shares 3 simple ways to reestablish a rhythm of connection and calm in your family after holidays, visitors, travel or any time.
  • Gemstones For Holiday Hangoverss — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama delves into the power of gemstones as an often overlooked means of dealing with the holiday letdown.
  • Getting back to Healthy — Bess at A Warrior Mom talks about the struggle of getting young ones back to eating healthy after several days to weeks of getting more candy and sweets than normal for the holidays and gives some suggestions on how to get them back to eating healthy in the new year.
  • Post Christmas Juice Feast — Sam at Love Parenting explains why she has created a new tradition of juice feasting, and how she includes her toddler when detoxing.
  • The Java Monkey On My Back — Christy at Eco Journey in the Burbs realizes it is time to kick her cup of Joe habit as a first step toward detoxing.
  • Minimalist Holidays — Jorje of Momma Jorje doesn’t find much need for recovery after her minimalist version of the holidays.
  • Do something for you — Lauren at Hobo Mama urges you to find a silly and indulgent reward of me-time — and she has hers.
  • do we recover? — Kenna at Million Tiny Things wonders what recovery really means in the context of the tragedies of this past holiday season.
  • 37 Easy Ways to Save Money — Shannon at GrowingSlower is sharing these money-saving tips to help get your budget back on track after the holidays.
  • A Two Year Old’s ResolutionsThat Mama Gretchen is putting the holidays behind her with a spin on traditional resolutions — New Year’s goals for her two-year-old! Sound crazy? Read on for an explanation!
  • How to Find Balance after the Holidays — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells her favorite ways to start a new year with hope and calmness.
  • Fresh Awakening — For Luschka at Diary of a First Child, the new year has coincided with a return to restful nights. With sleep, she’s found new directions in life, but while she can’t make too many changes to her life right now, she’s inspired and excited about the future.
  • Learning to slow down after a busy Festive Season Stoneageparent describes the joys and lows of this year’s festive season, as well as her New Year’s resolutions.
  • Detoxing’ Your Toddler After the Holidays — Does your family suffer side effects from the holidays? Join Christine from African Babies Don’t Cry to learn how she detoxed herself and her toddler off the treats and festivities of the season.
  • Scheduling is OK! — Jaye Anne at Wide Awake, Half Asleep explores the possibilities of the — SCHEDULE!!
  • We’re Saving their First Christmas for Next Time — Mercedes at Project Procrastinot takes it easy after moving with her husband and new babies to Scotland.
  • A Vacation from the World — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children retreats with her family at the end of every year in order to recuperate and enjoy one another.
  • On the Road to Recovery — Dionna at Code Name: Mama isn’t just recovering from the holidays, she’s recovering from a lifestyle.
  • We Never Left the GrindErika Gebhardt compares a typical day pre-holidays and post-holidays.
  • Remembering and Recovering from the Holidays (One day at a time) — Emily at S.A.H.M i AM is recovering from holidays slowly–taking one day at a time–while trying to remember all the sweet moments that passed too quickly.
  • 5 a Day — To get back on track Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy needed a simple system to help her family learn new values.
  • Holiday Detox & Healing: Bieler Broth — Megan at The Boho Mama shares her secret for a gentle, whole-foods-based post-holiday detox: Bieler Broth!
  • I’m Mama Not Supermom — After a year filled with changes Angela at EarthMamas World has to remind herself that she does not have to be supermom while recovering from the holiday chaos.

73 Responses to:
"On the Road to Recovery"

  1. Love the article Dionna, I think lots of us can identify with what you say but we haven’t been honest enough to admit it or brave enough to cut it out completely. This has got me thinking…

  2. Bess   MumtoEve

    Awesome job cutting out alcohol from your lives! That’s so fantastic! I never had “the party years”. I wasn’t a partier. I commuted to college everyday and worked on my off days and then got married young and started having kids young so I skipped that party phase. But alcohol has still snaked its way into my life. I had one summer 2 yrs ago where had far too many “mommy nights out” with my bff (who is single, childless and still in college). I tarted feeling that I “needed” a drink to relax. Well, then I got PG again and cut it bc I don’t drink in pregnancy at all. There have been times since having baby that Ive been over to the liquor store for wine too many times in a short period of time. I have made excuses and freaked myself out before. I’m not a drunk. I was never drinking to excess. But drinking frequently enough to feel like I needed it and when I felt like I was crossing some line- I cut it for a month or so to get myself back. I’m currently in a “cut it” phase. I know Ive been teetering a fine line. I even told my mom and husband that a major reason i don’t want to become an alcoholic (besides the fact that I wouldn’t make mom of the year) is that I don’t want to have such a prob with alcohol that I cant ever have it again. :/ I have a feeling there will be a time when I will either cut it completely or will just lose my desire to even have it. I’m hoping for the later. For now, I committed to no alcohol for this month. I may even stretch that to my birthday in mid-march and see from there.
    Anyways, Goo job! Your honesty and your post has def have me thinking and reevaluating myself.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      I often had those little voices in my head telling me “you’re slipping too far over the edge, Dionna, do something now.” I’d either cut back for awhile, feeling that I had some control over it, or I’d ignore it because hey – I wasn’t drinking to get drunk (like I had pre-kids). But I cannot tell you how strongly I understand what you said about never having it again – I didn’t want to lose the option entirely. It’s fun to have a drink at weddings. Or birthdays. Or nights out with friends. Or sitting alone on the – oh, wait. Ha. See? If I have the option, it just expands.

      Thank you, Bess, for your kind and honest words. Wishing you peace and strength in your own journey.

      • Bess   MumtoEve

        I do see. a little too clearly. lol I can very much relate.
        I know Ive had that little voice sneak into my head. The one that says, “hey, Bess… this is alcoholism. you are an alcoholic”. Ive never spoken it. DH and I always phrase it as a “getting close to” or “slipping into” for what I am/do. Never “I am”. This here is the first time I’ve ever even let the “I am” idea out of the back corner of my head. I always think “I’m not because…” bc I don’t drink every night or even ever week (though I have… to both… on occasions). I don’t start early in the day (though, there have been a few rare occasions where I have). It’s just normal drinking. not excessive drinking. I go online and see how many other mommy friends have wine many nights of the week. How many other mommy friends use the words “need” and “wine” in the same sentence when talking about relaxing at night. and it all just reassures me that I’m in a safe normal range. But just the fact that I have to wonder. That I have to ask myself or question myself…
        If I really didn’t have a problem with alcohol, would I have to ask myself if I did or make a list of reasons to explain why I don’t? :/

      • Dionna   CodeNameMama

        I think I could have had similar conversations with myself :) I think that the stereotype of an alcoholic doesn’t fit with how alcoholism really looks on most people – does that make sense? Like – the starting early in the day. Yes, there was a stage in my life where my friends and I would start early. Not consistently, but occasionally. But that stopped after law school. Does that mean I stopped being an alcoholic? No, that just means my life circumstances changed. KWIM?
        I don’t know – for me, the more I had to convince myself I didn’t have a problem, the more it became apparent I did. I’m not saying the same is true for you, of course!

  3. Good for you, Dionna. My partner made our home a dry zone in June 2006 when he realized he could hardly wait until I took the kids to bed so could crack open a beer. He decided he he no longer wanted to deliberately avoid his children so that he could drink. It was a huge turning point for our relationship and our family and I am SO GRATEFUL for people like you and he who NORMALIZE the cessation of drinking alcohol. Alcoholism is not the stereotype of the ‘wino’ in the street; it is often the dirty little secret of those we love and admire. Thank you for being so honest and for (hopefully) inspiring others to see that not drinking is perfectly normal too.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      “for (hopefully) inspiring others to see that not drinking is perfectly normal too” – isn’t that the truth? Alcohol is such a social lubricant that not drinking is seen as abnormal by many people. I’d love to help change that! Thank you so much Patti, you have no idea how much those words mean to me.

  4. Luschka   luschkavo

    <3 I'm not an alcoholic, but before Ameli was born, I wondered. In fact, the Christmas around which she was conceived I told my neighbour we'd had a party because there were so many bottles of wine outside our door in the recycling bin. With Hyperemesis and pregnancy I stopped drinking and haven't ever really gotten into it again. I am really proud of you for sharing such an honest post. You are such a rolemodel to so many mamas, and this post is one of the reasons why.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      I’m glad that it never got hold of you!! And thank you, Luschka. There are obviously many parts of me that make me feel unfit to be anyone’s role model, but I’m trying to change that.

  5. Congrats on your sobriety. As the child of an alcoholic, I applaud your efforts to bring another level of peace to your family.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Thank you, Amanda. As the child of an alcoholic myself, it was a huge factor in deciding to cut it out completely. Also, I could so clearly see the path I was heading toward if I didn’t stop now.

  6. Momma Jorje   MommaJorje

    Alcoholism runs in my family. I remember being about 7yo and mixing a Jack ‘n Coke for my mom. I remember meeting her in the car with one, too. At one point, she helped have her father institutionalized to help him quit drinking. He was a 24/7 drinker.

    Knowing this, I still partied in my youth, but tried never to drink alone or when I was mad / sad. I was mostly successful. I think that corny phrase is true “knowing is half the battle.” Accepting that you had a problem was a really, really big step. Admitting it to others, also huge. The rest… I think with your family supporting you, will be the easy part.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      I come from a very long line of alcoholics. I *knew* it, I could see signs, but I didn’t want to admit it could happen to me. I’d be stronger, right? I had to quit, though, because I didn’t want to put my kids in the same position.

  7. Kerry   recoverybabe

    Brave mama. Rock on.
    6 years and counting for me.

  8. Thank you for this, Dionna. I’ve given that nightly glass (glasses) of wine lots of thought in recent years. This morning I am inspired by your story, your strength, and your honesty. Thank you.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Thank you, Rachel. I hope your nightly glass(es) of wine don’t hold anything more nefarious than tannins, but if they do, I wish you the strength to make healthy choices. <3

  9. Sarah {Firmly Planted}   Sarah_the_doula

    Amazing, Dionna! I think there are many who will benefit from you being so open and transparent in this post. I like how you talked about the lack of black outs, but that you felt like you needed a glass or more at times. I think that often gets blown off, you know? And not recognized as some form of alcoholism. I also wanted to say the way you talked with Keiran about it is great, you’re right – there will come a time when more is necessary, but your answers to him were wonderful!

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Thank you so much, Sarah. Having lived with a very functional alcoholic, I know that the standard view of alcoholics as blind drunks is totally not true. It is so important to show people the other side! (Although, ahem, I have been that blind drunk in earlier years. Yikes.)

  10. Rachelle   MommyofLittleI

    Thank you for writing this, Dionna. I’m so proud of you for having the guts to tell all of us and helping to normalize alcohol awareness and alcohol free homes/lifestyle.
    I actually grew up in a family that doesn’t drink (although, my parents have since kept beer or Mike’s Hard Lemonade in the house), neither does either side of my extended family. Once I met Isaiah’s dad, though, I started drinking. There was a time, a few years ago when Isaiah’s dad and I were still together, that I felt that I “needed” a drink just about every night to deal with life. It got to the point that I was thinking I was an alcoholic too. When he left I realized that he was emotionally abusive, and once he was gone I didn’t need that drink anymore. Now, the only time I drink is for my birthday and occasionally with family, but I’m glad I don’t need a drink at night to relax and “deal” with life.
    Good luck in your year and your recovery.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Thank you, Rachelle, and I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. You know what’s ironic, is that for awhile I argued to myself that I didn’t want to have a completely dry house, because I’ve read the studies that say a child gets a more balanced view of alcohol if s/he sees it used – but not to excess. (I don’t want to have to dig up that study, but believe me, I read it.) I think, though, that those studies were not being done in homes where alcoholics live ;) It gives me hope to know that you grew up sans alcohol, but now have a healthy relationship with it!

  11. Thank you for your honest. Alcoholism runs in my husbands and my families. I know that it is a conversation we’re going to need to have with Gwen one day.

  12. Kelli

    Dionna,
    How incredibly powerful. Thank you for sharing this today…you’ve really got me thinking. I feel like I could have written this article–minus the 6 months sober part. I’ve had moments where I felt I needed to admit that I’m an alcoholic, but it just seems so drastic and overdramatic to say that–so I tell myself. I wonder if your post will inspire me to make a permanent change once and for all…I’ve hoped I could do that for some time now and have never been able to muster the strength to completely let it go. Thanks for your words as always…I often joke with my husband that I don’t need to write a blog bc the one I’d write is already being written–it’s weird to me how we seem to be living very parallel lives sometimes. Best of luck to you.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Oh Kelli – we are living similar lives, aren’t we?! And I understand how it can feel overly dramatic. Since becoming a mama, and changing the way I drink, it did feel pretty dramatic to say it out loud. But saying it felt like such a release. Like I was taking a bit of power back. And more importantly, saying it made my husband really understand that I needed his support.
      If you need support, please let me know. I’ll be thinking of you!!

  13. Wonderful job and such strength and resolve. I imagine there are a lot of moms who read this and are thinking “Maybe I should stop having that glass of wine myself”, so I am glad that you have opened yourself up and put it out there. Their families are glad too. ;)

  14. Dionna, as per usual, I am awed by you and your strength. I come from a long line of alcoholics as well, and it is something that I have really had to watch in myself, as I am definitely of the addictive personality type. It can be very easy to justify the use of alcohol when you have seen others use it to more excess than yourself, and I’m so glad that you were able to see that you were using it to the detriment of yourself, even if you weren’t using it to extreme.

    I’m so glad to count you in my friends.

    And I wish, after reading this, that I could give you a giant hug!

  15. Sloughing off the things that hold us is often very liberating. Thank you for sharing this. There is alcoholism on my husband’s side (thankfully not my husband), but it is something we discuss with the kids so that they can be fully informed. Never stop talking to your kids about things, especially about things which may be difficult for you. Hugs.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Thank you, Mandy. I’d love to know how you’ve approached it with your kids. Any chance you’d be willing to share?

  16. Erin@MultipleMusings   ErinLittle

    Hi Dionna,

    Remember me? I used to enter the carnivals a few years ago, before I was back at work full time and could no longer handle it. I am also an alcoholic. I’ve been trying to break the cycle for several years and it wasn’t until I fully embraced the recovery community that I was able to do it. I have not been fully open on my blog about it out of fear. I did say I quit drinking, that it was getting out of hand and I wanted to feel better. What I did not admit is that I needed help, a lot of help. Because it is really, really hard for me to stop. Hard to imagine a life without it. No more summer nights with wine, no more wine with friends over dinner. No. More. I try to face it one day at a time. My story is much like yours, except I progressed up to a bottle a night over time because one or two glasses stopped working. I firmly believe the statement that alcoholism is a progressive disease, I watched my Dad progress to his death, and I experienced the progression myself.

    Thank you for sharing and helping to remove the stigma which is still very, very prevalent and prevents many people from seeking help. You make it seem easy though, is it really?

    There are many online resources for people who need help. The Booze Free Brigade is a yahoo group started by Stephanie Wild-Taylor (she has a recovery blog). Crying Out Now, a recovery blog. I see a PP above has a recovery blog that I will check out also.

    Hugs.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Of course I remember you, Erin, thank you so much for reaching out. I appreciate your honesty and the resource!
      You’re right – it hasn’t been easy. I was worried about making the post too 1) raw, 2) pretty, 3) scary, 4) out there. So I chose to keep it simple. But the part that was the hardest for me wasn’t in the not drinking, it was in the admitting I needed to stop. The admission that I was out of control. That alcohol had truly claimed me, and that I’d never have power over it again.
      The reason it’s been easier to not drink is because I simply removed it from my life. All alcohol was tossed. Tom doesn’t order it when we eat out. The restaurant we ate at where we always enjoyed a few brews from around the world was off our radar for a long time until I thought I could handle going. The hardest time has been on a trip to Florida with my parents, when I was around my dad drinking non-stop. But I talked to my mom ahead of time and told her I’d need her strength to abstain.
      Being open about it – being honest with myself and my loved ones – that has been essential. But even more so has been removing it from my life. If I was around it, it would be SO much harder.

  17. Laura   puginthekitchen

    *high five* Growing up, my pediatrician told my mother to watch my closely as I was showing signs of an addictive personality even as early as 3. And to be completely honest, I struggle with simple things like how many rounds of solitaire I play before going to bed at night. Hence, I don’t smoke or gamble or take diet pills. I can drink my giant, Scandinavian husband under the table on hard stuff, but because of my family history, I have to exercise major self control. So I’m proud of you for recognizing the healthiest choices for your family and doing them!!!

    I didn’t really recognize the lack of emotional/mental health as deeply as I could have until I had Sylvi. Something about those daughters really makes us think, huh?

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Oh my gosh, I never knew how much stuff would be brought up by having a girl! What IS that?!
      Thank you for sharing your experiences, Laura.

  18. Wonderful post. Congratulations on your sobriety!

    I quit 99% of my drinking about a decade ago when my body suddenly noticed alcohol is poison and began having very bad reactions (swelling hands, nausea, etc.) before I could finish one drink. These days I have communion wine, and if I have a serious muscle spasm I’ll have one shot to relax the muscles. Since I quit, I’ve become very aware of just how often other adults “need” to drink–for example, I’m the only member of the church vestry who doesn’t drink, and they feel our annual retreat just wouldn’t work without knocking back about a bottle of wine per person. It doesn’t have anything like the social stigma of cigarette smoking.

    Thinking about that has made me more aware of my daily caffeine habit and the social supports for it. I quit coffee for part of pregnancy when it smelled horrible, and I got on okay without it, yet once I started again it became a daily thing again very quickly. Hmmmm…

    I think you did a great job explaining to your son. You might be interested in how I explained addiction to my child.

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Thank you so much for that link, that is helpful. And you’re right – not only is there not so much of a stigma against alcohol, but in many circles, alcohol is almost necessary. Hence why I got along so well in law school. Many lawyers are fishes ;)

  19. Destany   Destany Fenton

    It really does sneak up on a person. I have no experience with it for myself, but helplessly watched my husband go down that spiral, and ultimately supported him as he came to terms with his alcoholism. It was hard for me to understand why he couldn’t see it coming. But nobody ever thinks it’s going to be them, do they?
    I’m glad you realized how unhealthy it had become for you, and also that you have your husbands full support!

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      So true, no one thinks or wants it to be them – we all want to be stronger than our demons. Thank you for supporting someone in recovery – you have no idea how much it means to us.

  20. Lauren @ Hobo Mama   Hobo_Mama

    So glad you wrote this — I’m sure it was really hard for you to be this open. Kelly Hogaboom is someone I really admire who writes honestly about her own Recovery — you might enjoy following along with her.

    I’m glad either my genes or my goody-two-shoes upbringing (heh heh) prevented me from becoming an alcoholic, because I know I have addictive tendencies, and I don’t want to test it. I’m just in total respect of people — like you! — who can see where their addictions are harming or controlling their lives and who choose to stop them (and have the strength and support to do so).

    Hugs and much continued peace and strength to you!

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      I had no idea Kelly was a recovering alcoholic, I’ll be interested to read some of her stories. Thank you for sharing that. Thank you for your friendship and support!

  21. Marybeth   Rainbowsouffle

    Bravo Dionna! I am here to cheer you on. You’re an amazingly strong woman& I admire the heck out of your honesty. You will break the cycle <3

  22. Charise@I Thought I Knew Mama   ithoughtiknewma

    Good for you, Dionna! I’m so proud of you for taking these steps, and for – as always – going above and beyond to share your story and to hopefully inspire others to examine their own choices.

  23. Angela   EarthMamasWorld

    Dionna, you are so courageous and strong to write this post. I quit smoking the day I found out that I was pregnant with Alex. Your post truly has me thinking about the glass of wine that I enjoy after the kids bedtime. You have caused me to think about my decisions and motivations. You are amazing mama! <3

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      And how many times had you tried to quit before that? It was easier than ever once it was affecting another life, yes? I tried to quit dozens of time before I got pregnant – I needed that extra responsibility to make it stick. (I wish I’d done it with drinking initially too!)

  24. Just like in my real (read offline) life, the women I know online are so complex and amazing. The women I admire most come with plenty of stories of struggle and this is what makes them so real and beautiful and conscientious.

    Reminds me of a quote I love:

    “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
    ? Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

    Well done and thanks for sharing!
    Jenn

  25. Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama   hybridrastamama

    Love and support to you! It took me a while to realize that I too was hitting the wine bottle more often than I should. It was easier to cope with the struggles of raising a child when I took the edge off. For the past 6 months I have not touched any alcohol and while the temptation is there, I know it is better for me all around. It was very eye opening when my daughter asked where the “wine milkies” went. More than anything, THAT made me realize that my decision was a good one.

    Thanks for sharing so openly. Love to y ou!

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