Why, hello, menses.

November 9th, 2013 by Dionna | 4 Comments
Posted in Eclectic Learning, Healthy Living, natural parenting

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Why, hello, menses.

My first post-partum period arrived in late August without fanfare. No cramps, no mood swings, the only sign of my impending return to fertility was a marked increase in pimples. At any rate, I was completely fine regaining my cycle. 21 months without it was enough.

As much as some women loathe their menstrual cycle, I’ve made peace with it. At one point before I became pregnant with Ailia, I noticed that my creativity was tied to my cycle – I consistently became much more creative and introspective at certain points of the month. As you may have noticed, I haven’t been writing much lately (for my blog, anyway), so I’m hopeful that my menstrual cycle will spark the desire to start writing again. (And – hey – maybe it has! I’m writing now, aren’t I?!)

I’m currently reading Moon Time, by Lucy Pearce. I love how she so plainly spells out the attitudes Western culture has toward menstruation. So many of the societal lessons I was exposed to regarding menstruation, I do not want my own children to hold as truth. For example, what woman has not heard (or even thought) that it would be preferable to avoid menstruating altogether? Who has not heard someone snicker snidely about being “on the rag”? Or what about the widely held belief that women become overly emotional, even irrational, during their period?

As I get older, after becoming a mother and celebrating my body, I am open and eager to find new ways to accept everything about my body, including my period.
After all, it is part of what makes me who I am.

How do you feel about your menstrual cycle? Have you ever considered how your creativity/mood/energy changes throughout your cycle?


Photo adapted with permission from alacia via Flickr.

4 Responses to:
"Why, hello, menses."

  1. Great post! I hated my period when I was a kid. I wanted it so, so badly, and then I got it when I was 11.5, and it was paaaaainful. It was heavy, the cramping was awful, and they would last sometimes as long as 2 weeks. Knowing what I know now, I think I had fibroids all along, but that’s another story.

    I spent a lot of time, energy, and words on hating my period. Then, one day when I was 17, I heard a woman say, “I am thankful for my period. It comes every month as a signal of womanhood, and as evidence that I can bring life into the world,” or something like that, and I thought, “Yeah, yeah it does.”

    That was all it took, just one woman talking about it like it was a gift, for me to go from hating it to appreciating it. Once when my husband and I had first gotten together, I had a period and he told me how sorry he felt, and I went on a big long rant about how fortunate I was, and how thankful, and so on. I felt like I needed to protect “Aunt Flo’s” reputation, lol.

    Keep sharing your feelings on the subject. You never know when a young woman is listening. :)

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Yes! I think I was first influenced by mothers on Mothering’s forums – people who were comfortable with their bodies and comfortable talking about them. It’s made me look at my body so much differently!

  2. Susan   susanmay15

    Yes I have noticed my creativity fluctuate with my cycle – I get a huge burst of energy in my fertile stretch. I love being so in tune with my body (we’ve used Natural Family Planning for 8+ years now – both to conceive and prevent pregnancy.)

    I love this post! I’ve been thinking about writing a similar themed post about my period and using a menstrual cup. It still seems so taboo to discuss these things and I think that needs to change!

    Just curious – were you including pregnancy in your 21 months without your period? or was that count postpartum? With my son, I didn’t get my period back till he was just over 2 1/2 – so that was over 39 months! Not to mention that I only had 2 periods between my daughter and son… so in almost 6 1/2 years I had 2 periods… I love breastfeeding for this reason :-) (I’m really into this stuff if you can’t tell!)

    Hope your writing juices start flowing too (ok, well I already had written that before realizing it was kind of a pun – ha!)

    • Dionna   CodeNameMama

      Write it! Maybe we should have a blog carnival all about our menses ;)
      And no – I had not counted the months I was pregnant in that 21 months. Ailia was 21mo when I got my period back. And now I need to be much more cognizant of my cycle for our own NFP (to avoid) purposes!
      Thanks for sharing, Susan!

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