Getting Back Into My Positive Parenting Groove

December 5th, 2013 by Dionna | 3 Comments
Posted in Consensual Living, Gentle/Positive Discipline, natural parenting, Strive for Balance

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Getting Back Into My Positive Parenting Groove

Just when I think I’ve got this gentle discipline thing down, my kiddos go and hit a new developmental stage. Or I have too much on my plate and get stressed. Or we get sick. Sometimes parenting feels like it’s two steps forward, and one step back.

When I feel like I’m losing my positive parenting momentum, here are a few things that can get me back on track:

  1. I take some time for myself. When my temper is shorter than usual, it’s a good sign that I need some mama time. (Read Attachment Parenting is Not Martyr Parenting; Parents Have Needs Too)
  2. We revisit some of our family “rules” and make sure that everyone is working together to make our house run smoothly. (Read Family Rules: A Recipe for Harmony)
  3. I check out one of my favorite parenting books (like Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids or Playful Parenting) and find some new ideas.
  4. I read about where my kids are developmentally. Simply knowing that our challenges are developmentally appropriate helps me be more patient. (I love the Louise Bates Ames series)
  5. We reassess our needs: do we need more play dates? More quiet time at home? Less screen time?
  6. I ask for help. From my husband, from my friends, and most of all, from my kiddos. I have no problem saying “mama is having a hard day, can you be extra gentle with me today?”

How about you – how do you get back into a positive parenting groove?


Edited from an article originally published in the October 2013 Natural Parents Network — Code Name: Mama — Hobo Mama Joint Newsletter. Sign up at this link for exclusive giveaways and coupon codes, original content, and more!

3 Responses to:
"Getting Back Into My Positive Parenting Groove"

  1. Love this, thank you!

  2. Daniel Wagner.   parent_progress

    How novel a concept: Asking for help!

    I think that many of us parents out there tend to try to accomplish parenting on our own, and it simply can’t be done. There’s too much to learn — too much at stake.

    My biggest issue is that most of my family is still stuck in Authoritarian Parenting mode and the advice I get goes against what we believe on a fundamental level. Besides internet blogs and articles, where do you go to get additional feedback and help?

    Daniel Wagner.

  3. Dionna   CodeNameMama

    Daniel- I’ve had to intentionally create a parenting community that I feel comfortable in. Both locally and online, I’ve sought out parents who I can bounce ideas off of, share challenges with (without getting the mainstream advice), etc. One of my communities is – both the Facebook page community and the volunteers who make it amazing. I invite you to check it out!

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