Dear Me: I love you.

June 9th, 2015 by Dionna | 10 Comments
Posted in Adults, Carnival and Special Series, Carnival of Natural Parenting, Eclectic Learning, Just for Fun/Miscellaneous

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Welcome to the June 2015 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Talking to Yourself

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have written letters to themselves. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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For our Carnival this month, we are supposed to write a letter to ourselves. What would we tell our younger selves, with today's perspective? What do we want to remind our future selves, who may forget today's challenges? And every time I come up with something, I can't help but feeling sad and overwhelmed. It's hard to look at the past with today's eyes - you know what effect those bad decisions will have, you know who you've hurt and how you could have done things differently. Or perhaps it was you who was hurt, and now that time and distance have given you space from the pain, you realize that the other person was struggling with their own demons, and you wish you could tell them "I forgive you. I love you." And so instead of writing to the past me (who has hurt and disappointed so many people), or trying to tell the future me what's what, I'm just going to write to present me. Just a few little reminders to help me be at peace with who I am in the moment. I think that gives me the greatest chance of being at peace in the future, too. Dear Me ~~~~~~~ Watercolor background photo adapted with permission (added words) from Otto Hablizel via Flickr Creative Commons.

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

  • Dear Me. — Meegs at A New Day writes to her decade-younger self offering a good reminder of how far she’s come, and she addresses some fears she wishes future her could assuage.
  • Reflecting on Motherhood with Parental Intelligence: A Letter to Myself — Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. at Parental Intelligence writes about raising her two loving, empathic sons with Parental Intelligence and finding they have become industrious, accomplished young men with warm social relationships.
  • A Letter to MyselfThe Barefoot Mama writes to herself in the moments around the birth of her daughter.
  • A Letter to Myself — Holly at Leaves of Lavender offers a missive to herself in the past… three years in the past, to be precise, when her little one was only four months old.
  • Dear me: Nothing will go the way you’ve planned — Lauren at Hobo Mama gets real with her just-starting-parenting self and tells it to her straight.
  • A Letter to the Mama Whom I Will Become — Erin from And Now, for Something Completely Different writes a letter to the Mama whom she will one day be, filled with musings on the past, present, and future.
  • Dear Me of 7 Years Ago — Lactating Girl at The Adventures of Lactating Girl writes to her pre-baby self telling her about the whirlwind she’s about to enter called parenting.
  • Talking to My 18 Year Old SelfHannahandHorn talks to herself as she is just entering college.
  • Dear highly sensitive soulMarija Smits tells a younger version of herself that motherhood will bring unexpected benefits – one of them being the realization that she is a highly sensitive person.
  • Talking to myself: Dear Pre StoneageparentStoneageparent enlightens her pre-pregnant self about the amazing transformations life has in store for her after having two children
  • Dear Me: I love you. — Dionna at Code Name: Mama wrote herself a few little reminders to help her be at peace with who she is in the moment. That may give her the greatest chance of being at peace in the future, too.
  • My best advice to the new mama I was 8 years ago — Tat at Mum in Search shares the one thing she wishes she’d figured out earlier in a letter to her 8-years-ago self (that’s when her first baby was 6 moths old).
  • A Letter to Myself — Bibi at The Conscious Doer sends a letter back in time eight years to her darkest moment post partum.
  • To me, with love — Jessica at Crunchy-Chewy Mama makes peace with her past and projects what a future her will need to hear.
  • To Myself on the Last Day — Rachael at The Variegated Life tells her panicked last-day-before-motherhood self not to worry.

10 Responses to:
"Dear Me: I love you."

  1. Tat   muminsearch

    That’s a letter anyone would be pleased to receive from themselves. We all do the best we can with the knowledge we have at the time and it’s easy to judge ourselves from the perspective of experience, but hey, this is how we learned a better way, by stuffing it up the first time.

  2. Stoneageparent   stoneageparent

    A beautifully written and concise letter to yourself, thank you for sharing, I love the wisdom of your words which ring true to me too. I also love the watercolour background, which lends authenticity to the letter style. Stoneageparent

  3. Marija Smits   MarijaSmits

    Such a beautiful letter, I cried when I read it. Thank you Dionna, it’s good for me to hear that other people struggle with regret and pain. Sending you hugs from across the pond.

  4. Bibi   bibiestlund

    I relate so much to what you said. Present me likes to beat up on past me a lot. It’s definitely a process to recognize the truth of “you’ve changed, you’ve grown (and if you haven’t, then think about how you can)”.

    I know for certain that my own “present me” needs to hear and give myself this type of grace more. Thank you for sharing.

  5. Meegs   TattooedMeegs

    Great letter. I could read that everyday and apply it to the person I was the day before! I always say, my life might not be exactly what I thought it would be, but it is beautiful… and every choice, good or bad, brought me here. So I am grateful for them.

  6. Lauren @ Hobo Mama   Hobo_Mama

    How lovely! I think we all need that letter. You could hang it somewhere to see it often.

  7. Rachael   RachaelNevins

    While you’re forgiving yourself, afford others the same grace.

    Yes! I’ve been working on that for some time — though in reverse, suspecting that if I were more forgiving of others, I could learn to afford myself some grace.

  8. So beautiful. Forgiveness is such an important thing, and while many people understand the value of forgiving others, it seems sometimes that very few understand the value in forgiving ourselves. Thank you for the gentle reminder.

  9. Jessica   crunchychewy

    Wow. That is beautiful and perfect advice for all of us, always. Thank you! And congratulations! :-)

  10. We could all take something from this, thank you. I especially love the concept of making a memory every day. This seems so pertinent to me right now as my daughter is five months old and the days seem to be flying past.

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