How to Have Special Time with Two (or more) Kids at Once

July 23rd, 2015 by Dionna | Comments Off on How to Have Special Time with Two (or more) Kids at Once
Posted in natural parenting, Strive for Balance, Use Nurturing Touch

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Life is crazy busy, right? Sometimes when I read books that tell me how beneficial individual special time is with each of my kiddos, every day, I get a very huge case of the guilties. Because, really? Every day? Mama ain’t got time for that.

What I do try to do is to create some space for one-on-one time with each kid while they’re both with me. Here are a few things I do to have special time with two kids at once:

  1. We take turns. We read books, first one chosen by one child, the next chosen by the other. Or we play board games, taking turns playing things that each child had chosen.
  2. We roughhouse. Family roughhousing can be super fun, and it let’s siblings get physical within safe boundaries. Need ideas? See 20 ideas for fun roughhousing activities here, and here’s one more: have a sock war – throw balled up socks at each other. We do this using furniture and laundry baskets as “shields.”
  3. We laugh. Laughing is so good for the soul, so good for relationships! Find something that makes you all laugh. We dig silly jokes and books (Pilkey’s “Dragon’s Fat Cat” had us all crying, we were laughing so hard the first time we read it!). Also, funny cat videos. No lie.
  4. We get outside. There’s something about the expanse of the outdoors that makes special time with multiple kids feel easy. We get out into the forest, where both kids can show me treasures. My husband takes them to a nearby high school, where they run and play on the football field. Anywhere we can run free will do the trick.

Of course when it’s possible, I do try to have real one-on-one time with both kids. One-on-one time fosters stronger parent-child relationships, and as Dr. Markham says in Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life, “[r]esearch shows that if you have a positive relationship with each of your children, they’re much more likely to have a positive relationship with each other.”1

How do you create special time with your kids when there’s not time to do it separately?

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